I feel the ‘Change’ is needed

I have been at the center of the several long chatting sessions in person either at pubs or in office. Somehow I have been able to read the mind of the person sitting opposite to me and understand what he feels and also frankly express what he feels about me. But then I have two issues:

1. A feeling of regret- Why do I need to be so transparent about all my feelings, thoughts and plans? Had this information advantage not delivered I could have proved any opinion formed or possessed as false.

2. I fail to know what is to be changed within me. I know something has to change but most often it boils down to meet less, speak less an avoid more. Is this the right way to lead and life a life?

I fear when I return to managing life rather than living it.